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D their straightcis friends navigate this changing world Offering advice on everything from coming out to getting your first gay haircut to walking down the aisle. Okay okay I know what you're thinking You're obviously not a ueer chick so why did you read this Well not that I have to explain myself but because 1 a friend on Goodreads said it was really good thanks Lexxi Kitty 2 I was wanting to read an LGBT positive non fiction book from NetGalley for a change and 3 because there's actually a chapter for straight allies which I do consider myself If those aren't enough reasons then I don't know what to say Lindsay King Miller is an excellent writer and she's hilarious She starts out where you'd expect Advice on coming out I've seen this happen You may have to cut ties with people who are important to you if they won’t respect your life your relationships or your identityAnd this makes me mad Finally if you think coming out may put you in physical danger violence being kicked out of your home etc do everything you can to have an exit strategy in place before disclosing This should include a place to stay a way of getting there and a plan for how you’ll support yourself at least for the short term If anyone makes you feel threatened call 911 andor activate your exit strategy immediately—don’t wait around to see if things get worseNot at the author obviously But the fact that she has to include this in there because it really is necessary is just a horrifying part of our culture But a lot of her advice is just general good wisdom that anyone can use The following is about coming out but who couldn't use this great advice When you’re stuck and can’t see a way out every problem is crushing and demoralizing It’s easy to feel like the problem is you like there’s something fundamentally wrong with the person you are There isn’t—you’re a wonderful human being in shitty circumstances and you will find a solution as long as you keep setting goals and working toward them It’s okay if it’s slow it’s okay if it’s hard it’s okay if you have unexpected setbacksThis is some great advice But don't get me wrong a lot of this is very specific to the “L” in LGBT I think this book is great even for non lesbians who 1 are dating and 2 want to be understanding of those in your life who are lesbians Like the red flags those are red flags for any relationship But mostly I'm glad I read it because Lindsay is funny as hell The chapter on bisexuality has some excellent information to clue us on on issues that are particular to those that call themselves bisexual This is good learning for both straight allies and non bisexual LGBT folks And she gives some good solid relationship advice about being ready for marriage living together heartbreak what to do when your family rejects you Of course it all tends to be very specific to relationships between two women but there’s a lot of overlap with other relationships I'm not sure what her background in relationships is well besides having them but she has obviously done some good research and comes out with some good solid relationship advice And her advice for being a good ally Just don’t be a dick There’s than that but that’s how she sums it up and I love it She talks about the 2 year process of getting married to her partner While I obviously support same sex marriage this was good to remember why it's important Not just because of the legal rights it gives But because it gives certain people a simple right that the rest of us take for granted And she has some great stuff to say about bullying But what I love most about this book is that it is filled with such hope Whether you're living a non traditional life No two happy families are exactly the same but that doesn’t mean any of them are happier than the others Be as creative as you want to be As long as your family is built on bonds of love respect and support it can look like just about anythingOr have big dreams you should never give up on searching for something so spectacular that it brings glitter and joy into every otherwise dull facet of your life If you haven’t found it or can’t even imagine yet what it might be that’s okay It’s out there It’s going to rock your worldThis book is all about keeping at it and making it better And about your life It’s not good enough until it’s amazingI know that maybe the people that this was written to may need to hear this because the world treats them like they should believe it less and I don't want to take this away from that audience But it really is good stuff for anyone who has relationships Highly highly recommended Thanks to NetGalley and PENGUIN GROUP Blue Rider Press for a copy in return for an honest review Hasidism: A New History everything from coming out to getting your first gay haircut to walking down the aisle. Okay okay I know what you're thinking You're obviously not a ueer chick so why did you read this Well not that I have to The Hanging Tree (English Edition) explain myself but because 1 a friend on Goodreads said it was really good thanks Lexxi Kitty 2 I was wanting to read an LGBT positive non fiction book from NetGalley for a change and 3 because there's actually a chapter for straight allies which I do consider myself If those aren't W cieniu prawa / Czarna Madonna / Świt, który nie nadejdzie enough reasons then I don't know what to say Lindsay King Miller is an Ajax the Warrior excellent writer and she's hilarious She starts out where you'd Becoming Victoria expect Advice on coming out I've seen this happen You may have to cut ties with people who are important to you if they won’t respect your life your relationships or your identityAnd this makes me mad Finally if you think coming out may put you in physical danger violence being kicked out of your home The Picture of Dorian Gray etc do Karatay Diyetiyle Beslenme Tuzaklarından Kurtuluş Rehberi everything you can to have an Afterlife exit strategy in place before disclosing This should include a place to stay a way of getting there and a plan for how you’ll support yourself at least for the short term If anyone makes you feel threatened call 911 andor activate your Estructura Economica Mundial (Spanish Edition) exit strategy immediately—don’t wait around to see if things get worseNot at the author obviously But the fact that she has to include this in there because it really is necessary is just a horrifying part of our culture But a lot of her advice is just general good wisdom that anyone can use The following is about coming out but who couldn't use this great advice When you’re stuck and can’t see a way out ほんと野獣 7 [Honto Yajuu 7] every problem is crushing and demoralizing It’s Chopin: Mazurkas for the Piano, Complete, Alfred Masterwork Edition, Practical Performing Edition easy to feel like the problem is you like there’s something fundamentally wrong with the person you are There isn’t—you’re a wonderful human being in shitty circumstances and you will find a solution as long as you keep setting goals and working toward them It’s okay if it’s slow it’s okay if it’s hard it’s okay if you have unexpected setbacksThis is some great advice But don't get me wrong a lot of this is very specific to the “L” in LGBT I think this book is great Scalped, Vol. 6: The Gnawing even for non lesbians who 1 are dating and 2 want to be understanding of those in your life who are lesbians Like the red flags those are red flags for any relationship But mostly I'm glad I read it because Lindsay is funny as hell The chapter on bisexuality has some Abuse of Power - 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Celtic Tribalism in Scotland exactly the same but that doesn’t mean any of them are happier than the others Be as creative as you want to be As long as your family is built on bonds of love respect and support it can look like just about anythingOr have big dreams you should never give up on searching for something so spectacular that it brings glitter and joy into Strapdown Inertial Navigation Technology, 2nd Edition (IEE Radar, Sonar, Navigation and Avionics Series) every otherwise dull facet of your life If you haven’t found it or can’t The Basics of Public Budgeting and Financial Management: A Handbook for Academics and Practitioners even imagine yet what it might be that’s okay It’s out there It’s going to rock your worldThis book is all about keeping at it and making it better And about your life It’s not good FSOT Study Guide Review: Test Prep & Practice Test Questions for the Written Exam & Oral Assessment on the Foreign Service Officer Test (English Edition) enough until it’s amazingI know that maybe the people that this was written to may need to hear this because the world treats them like they should believe it less and I don't want to take this away from that audience But it really is good stuff for anyone who has relationships Highly highly recommended Thanks to NetGalley and PENGUIN GROUP Blue Rider Press for a copy in return for an honest review

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Ask a ueer Chick is a guide to sex love and life for lesbian gay bi and ueer women Based on the long running and popular advice column for The Hairpin but featuri. 'Ask A ueer Chick' is originally the column the author has written since 2011 she contributes also to other publications The book is for women attracted to women trans women included starting on the LGTB scene with a chapters also for those who want to support them The chapters on coming out guide to the subculture on dating sex brief and not particularly detailed but sufficient starter breakups bisexual girls and their particular troubles etc the chapter for straight supporters on dealing with hate on marriage and at the end there are some onlinephone resourcesThe book is somewhat US centric in places but non US people will still benefit from reading it The author writes positively you can tell she's done the column above yet it doesn't feel like just some short bites of the story She doesn't write from just one ueer POV which is refreshing I like how she doesn't expect you to fit into certain molds but make your ueer indentity look like you including when dating or in one's sex life This makes a very good starter's book whatever the age you are Wendy Knits Lace: Essential Techniques and Patterns for Irresistible Everyday Lace etc the chapter for straight supporters on dealing with hate on marriage and at the Down In Texas end there are some onlinephone resourcesThe book is somewhat US centric in places but non US people will still benefit from reading it The author writes positively you can tell she's done the column above yet it doesn't feel like just some short bites of the story She doesn't write from just one ueer POV which is refreshing I like how she doesn't Men on the Edge expect you to fit into certain molds but make your ueer indentity look like you including when dating or in one's sex life This makes a very good starter's book whatever the age you are

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Ng entirely new content Ask a ueer Chick cuts through all of the bizarre conditioning imparted by parents romantic comedies and The L Word to help ueer readers an. I received a copy of this book through Penguin's First to Read program in exchange for an honest reviewThis book isn't really for me because I'm fairly certain I'm a normal straight chick That being said a lot of the advice in this book is something that I think all women could benefit from and there's a fair amount of advice that straight men could certainly benefit from concerning how to treat women Honestly enough of the advice would be beneficial for anyone with a romantic partner of any gender or orientation that I think everybody could benefit from reading this book in some way There were areas of this book that made me feel a little uncomfortable Ms King Miller uses a lot of humor and cracks a lot of jokes while giving her advice and I'm not sure if I'm allowed to find it funny or if laughing at her ueer centered jokes is an unacceptable micro aggression on my part That uncertainty makes me feel uncomfortable Maybe her next book can focus on advice for us straight folks interacting with the LGBT community While Chapter 7 sort of did that it really left me with uestions than answersAfter reading this book I do feel like I am at least a little better informed about the female portion of the LGBT community and it was fun to read because of Ms King Miller's humor and freuent compliments Overall I give this book 5 out of 5 stars because it seems uite informative and was fun to read I would recommend it to basically everyone if only to increase understanding of others that may be different from yourselfReviewed on Just Another Girl and Her Books bloghttpwwwjustanothergirlandherbooks Felt and Torch on Roofing: A Practical Guide entirely new content Ask a ueer Chick cuts through all of the bizarre conditioning imparted by parents romantic comedies and The L Word to help ueer readers an. I received a copy of this book through Penguin's First to Read program in Diamonds, Gold, and War: The British, the Boers, and the Making of South Africa exchange for an honest reviewThis book isn't really for me because I'm fairly certain I'm a normal straight chick That being said a lot of the advice in this book is something that I think all women could benefit from and there's a fair amount of advice that straight men could certainly benefit from concerning how to treat women Honestly King John and Magna Carta: A Ladybird Adventure from History book enough of the advice would be beneficial for anyone with a romantic partner of any gender or orientation that I think Soundtracks For Learning: Using Music In The Classroom everybody could benefit from reading this book in some way There were areas of this book that made me feel a little uncomfortable Ms King Miller uses a lot of humor and cracks a lot of jokes while giving her advice and I'm not sure if I'm allowed to find it funny or if laughing at her ueer centered jokes is an unacceptable micro aggression on my part That uncertainty makes me feel uncomfortable Maybe her next book can focus on advice for us straight folks interacting with the LGBT community While Chapter 7 sort of did that it really left me with uestions than answersAfter reading this book I do feel like I am at least a little better informed about the female portion of the LGBT community and it was fun to read because of Ms King Miller's humor and freuent compliments Overall I give this book 5 out of 5 stars because it seems uite informative and was fun to read I would recommend it to basically Bleach, Vol. 32: Howling everyone if only to increase understanding of others that may be different from yourselfReviewed on Just Another Girl and Her Books bloghttpwwwjustanothergirlandherbooks


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  1. says:

    Disclaimer I received an advance copy of this book free for review from NetGalley I've been putting off reviewing this book for five days now which is pretty unlike my usual habits I try to review everything as soon as I finish unless it's like 2am and I have to get to sleep because I have work in the morning and need to actually use my brain for something other than filling the vacuum of my skull cavity and it really bugs me to have unreviewed books staring at me every day from my Goodreads homepage But I am a little daunted by this review I have so much that I want to say and uote and point out and I know that no matter how hard I try all of that greatness is just not going to appear as part of this review The longer I put it off the less I'll be able to put into words all of the things that I want to say and it might already be too late Oh well c'est la vie right? I just happened to be browsing NetGalley one day and this bright yellow cover caught my eye as I'm sure it was designed to do Then the title hooked me and I was instantly curious as to what this book might contain I've never heard of The Hairpin the site that contains the Ask A ueer Chick column I had no idea what to expect other than the obvious LGBT content Would this be a lesbian manifesto? Or would it be a hilarious collection of uestions and answers that while funny are relatable and insightful and meaningful? Would this just be another one of those blog to book conversions that just takes a bunch of the content of an existing successful project and re publishes it in book form? Turns out it was all of those things and So No this is not just a book that consisted of Export blogPublish book King Miller mentions in the introduction that she decided to go for of a narrative form than a uestion and answer form which I admit that I was a teensy bit disappointed by initially because I thought that it might preclude possibility number two from existing there being no uestions to answer after all But it turned out to be the best of both worlds the advice and answers to uestions that could be asked rather than just cherry picking interesting uestions and answering them specifically I feel like there was a lot ground covered and information provided this way There was much of that relatable insightful and meaningful content and uite a lot of humor as well I really enjoyed it and found it entertaining as well as informative There was a delightful tongue in cheek tone to the writing that had me giggling unexpectedly I really enjoyed that However some of the humor came about in the form of crudeness and vulgarity I realize that the previous sentence makes me sound like I should put down the Prude Juice but I promise you that I don't have a problem with it for the language or crassness itself on the contrary I'm the target audience but rather for the image that it presents of the work the writer and the culture Being a lesbian doesn't automatically mean that one is vulgar and crass does it? I believe that the author tried and succeeded at aiming this book towards the hip and cool people of her generation The problem is that that's not the only type of person who might read or find this book useful and the language and tone may turn away people who might truly benefit from it Part of what this book is about is inclusiveness and acceptance yet I think that the casual crassness could alienate some readers And that's the crux of my language and tone complaint with this book I would expect this book to be a professional piece of writing and for the most part it is except when it isn't It doesn't bother ME but I can see some perhaps older women who are figuring themselves out later in life who have lived for decades in a heteronormative society who are traditional minded etc reading this book for help and guidance through their uestions and feeling that this book really isn't for them after all And that makes me somewhat sad Now I understand that the whole accept me for who I am and who I present myself to be argument is valid But that's an idealistic perfect world situation that doesn't exist right now or ever and honestly I don't think that one's sexual preference or gender identity has anything to do with how professionally they present themselves in their work And that's why I think that a book like this one that's hoping to cross boundary and party lines provide advice and guidance and support for everyone who may need or want it should try to be as neutral as possible to include anyone who may potentially find it I only criticize for this because I think that this was a very informative very interesting and I think helpful book and could benefit a lot of people who might be curious or struggling with how to deal with their sexuality or gender representation I learned uite a lot myself even though I'm not struggling with either of those things This is a book that I think many many people should read regardless of their identification and I want it to not offend them away by poor language choices Speaking of word choices I did think that it was a bit strange that elide was used twice in place of the common omit or remove Just seemed like a strange choice to me when so much of the book was straightforward common language and yet here's this uncommon word that just felt out of place Finally and I know that this is perhaps not fair to bring up but I am sorely disappointed in the version of the book that I got from NetGalley for review At the end of the book there's a whole slew of resources provided The websites are OK but the phone numbers are a horrible mess Examples GLBT National Hotline Hotline Hotline Hotline 4564 peer counseling information and local resources GLBT Youth TalkLine alkLine alkLine alkLine 7743 youthspecific sic under twenty five peer counseling information and local resourcesThere are six of those that are just like that I really don't understand how that happens It really seems like the number was formatted out or copied over or something The little conspiracy theorist on my shoulder is whispering that it's to sell the book for the complete resource list but that doesn't make much sense since anyone getting a NetGalley freebie would have access to the internet and could easily Google these resources for free OK and just because I'm on a roll with the criticisms there's no treasure map in The Lord of the Rings There is one in The Hobbit but only if one considers a regular map showing the way back to one's dragon infested mountain home and the way to get inside where there happens to be treasure to be a treasure map I don't I think of pirates and The Goonies when I think of treasure maps But maybe that's just me And since that now seems like a SUPER random comment I'll provide the text that I'm referring to bear in mind that this is obviously an uncorrected edition and this may have changed in the final copy Some people will try to convince you that you have only one true identity and that your job is to find it possibly by acuiring and following some sort of Lord of the Rings style treasure mapYou may now begin yelling Nerd in my general directionAnd just ONE because this one really could have used some elaboration for me but why is Google Chat and texting taboo as methods of coming out when Facebook or Twitter status updates are A OK? I just don't understand I need info than just Girl Don't OK Now I'm really done with the negatives I think I really found everything else about this book to be pretty great I think uite a lot of it from the 'figure out who you are' and 'figure out what you want' bits to the 'don't settle for crap' and 'you're not alone' bits can all apply to everyone But the segments that really do apply only to the LGBT community were great as well Informative for me at least in how to relate to people in the way that makes them the most comfortable and to see things from different perspectives than the one that exists inside my own head It even validated some things for me that I admit I thought were just attention seeking behaviors on Facebook That's ignorant of me and I'm glad that I read this because I've now had my eyes opened to a whole spectrum of possibilities That alone is well worth the read So all in all I think that this is a book that everyone should read even if you feel that you are open and accepting and forward thinking I thought that I was but even I learned some new things from this book


  2. says:

    'Ask A ueer Chick' is originally the column the author has written since 2011 she contributes also to other publications The book is for women attracted to women trans women included starting on the LGTB scene with a chapters also for those who want to support them The chapters on coming out guide to the subculture on dating sex brief and not particularly detailed but sufficient starter breakups bisexual girls and their particular troubles etc the chapter for straight supporters on dealing with hate on marriage and at the end there are some onlinephone resourcesThe book is somewhat US centric in places but non US people will still benefit from reading it The author writes positively you can tell she's done the column above yet it doesn't feel like just some short bites of the story She doesn't write from just one ueer POV which is refreshing I like how she doesn't expect you to fit into certain molds but make your ueer indentity look like you including when dating or in one's sex life This makes a very good starter's book whatever the age you are


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    I received this book from NetGalley in return for a fair review My first book by this author This is not my first LGBT nonfiction that I’ve read but it is the first that I’ve read that is about current events Well no I read that book about okay let me rephrase This is the first LGBT nonfiction book about that appears to have been written from the millennial generation perspective I’m not actually sure if the book is from that perspective especially since the author information is empty on GoodReads but it certainly appeared to be from a millennial generation perspective Right so a No I’ve never read the online version of ‘Ask a ueer Chick’ advice column; b I’ve forgotten what b is; c b might have been this is a nonfiction book I do not have a ‘set’ way to review nonfiction books nor have a method to rate nonfiction books I shall now stumble through some thoughts and hopefully they will be helpful to othersThere are certain reoccurring formatting errors that pop up in this book I assume that this is because I’m reading an uncorrected proof or an ARC or whatever words work here and therefore do not in any way add or subtract ‘points’ because of those errors Many of which involve words running together As in I’meatingsomecheesenow I do not hold the author or book accountable for these specific issuesThis book is a nonfiction work written by the advice columnist at The Hairpin who writes a column as you might suspect called ‘Ask a ueer Chick’ The column is for well anyone I suppose who has uestions regarding the ueer women which and this is stressed includes those women who are in one shape or form transgender which is how discussions about penis in vagina got into the book I assume; it is stressed also though that the author of the book is not an expert on transgender issues The author herself is and she has called herself several things over the years a bisexual ueer married woman I suppose it may be of importance since I noted the bisexual part to note that she is married to a womanThe book like the column is basically for anyone Specifically designed for biueerlesbian women but there’s a chapter for ‘friends ofadjacentfamilyetc’ who wish to learn about what they should knowThe book is not set up in a uestion and answer format but in a narrative form – written based on uestions the author had received and presumably answered plus conversations she has had with transgender peopleThe book is uite informative While it might drag near the end and be oddly fixated on certain issues it still was uite informative and actually uite fun to readThe book opens with well let me just follow the table of contents and include some of my own words under the headingsIntroduction How Do You Know You’re a ueer Chick? This book is for everyone Though specifically geared for those who are girls who like girls Girls includes those who might have been born in a body designated differently than they the person inhabiting the body believe it should have been designated As long as they like girls Trans issues though are not a subject the author is an authority onChapter 1 Coming Out An interesting examination of when to come out how to come out various methods one on one; social media; hand written letters; etc; and how bisexual women will routinely have to keep coming out over and over again to the same peopleChapter 2 Of Mullets and Motorcycles Your Guide to the Subculture While getting a ‘lesbian’ haircut is something like a rite of passage and getting the shortest haircut you can force yourself to get at least once in your life get the hair that ‘works’ for you instead of stressing about whether or not ‘your hair’ is ‘ueer enough’Chapter 3 Don’t Stare at Her Rack Too Much and Other Advice on Dating Be aware that people are people They are individuals If you see someone who looks like they have modeled themselves on the most stereotypical representation of butch women that does not mean that they themselves are stereotypes Maybe the woman you are looking at regardless of how they look likes to cook doesn’t like to cook likes to work on car engines likes to ride Harleys likes etc People are people Don’t assumeChapter 4 But What Can Two Girls Do? Your Guide to ueer Sex Lots and lots of stuff Including fisting There’s a graphic description of how to fist another woman included in this book free of charge Most importantly though don’t ‘assume’ that what you see in porn is what two ‘real’ ueer women do with each other nor assume that just because something like scissoring can start fist fights in bars that there aren’t in fact some real ueer women who just love to engage in scissoring Do what you like Communication is super importantChapter 5 A ueer Chick’s Guide to Heartbreak Hmms What do I recall? Everyone will have their heart broken at some point in their lives don’t hide yourself away fearing this issueChapter 6 Bi Any Means Necessary Notes on Non Monosexuality Bisexuality or whichever word you choose pansexual etc is real It is not a privilege ie there’s a believe that bisexual people have the privilege the bisexual privilege of being able to ‘chose’ to be with a person of the opposite gender and therefore ‘pretend’ to be ‘normal’ This is not actually a privilege and is in fact something of a burden Bisexuality is real Just because that sometimes might result in a man and a woman dating does not mean that the person who is bisexual is not still ueera memberpart of LGBTIA That’s what the B in LGBTIA stands for Bisexual Chapter 7 I’m Not Gay but My Sister Is Advice for Straight People Here are some terms to use mostly in general If the person who you are speaking with has told you the terms they like to be referred to as then use those terms with them If you over hear them using terms which are andor can be slurs or the like don’t use them yourself If you suspect someone is ueer do not confront them Let them tell you when they wish to tell you If you seeover hear someone making slurs or the like being bigoted stand up for ueer people Don’t let them get away with it If it is someone you cannot ‘cut from your life’ then just let them know that what they are saying isn’t ‘okay’ with you and redirect conversation elsewhere The A in LGBTIA does not stand for Ally Despite the previous point it isn’t your fight You can help but you are in no position to sayarguedemand that someone that actually is LGBTIA follow what you have learned A by the way stands for asexual it also stands for other things but in this specific instance the author says it stands for Asexual not ally Oh and the LGBTIA person is not obligated to teach you stuff Do your own researchChapter 8 Haters Gonna Hate Dealing with Discrimination Regardless of what you might wish or how the world currently is ‘evolving’ not a word actually used in the book I don’t think some people are just incapable of ‘accepting’ They are going to hate You the LGBTIA person are not obligated to teach themChapter 9 If You Liked It Then You Should Have Put a Ring on It Marriage Marriage is very important There are if I recall the number right I can’t okay there’s some organization that said that there are something like 116 legal benefits for two people getting married Despite the win in the Supreme Court there are still states wherein two ueer people cannot currently marry legally Though because of the Supreme Court their marriage elsewhere has to be respected Marriage euality iswasand will be important but it’s not the only thing out there that needs to be addressed Nor is it really that important it’s importance is kind of minor compared to other issues This is one of the times of several wherein the author kind of got fixated on certain things One moment marriage is super important the next it iswas of minor importance; now it’s back to being super important; yo yo; main point though was that there are issues out there that need to be addressed like the statistically large number of health education and other issues that ueer people faceChapter 10 It’s Not Good Enough Until It’s Amazing Don’t settleThis is an interesting and informative book There were certain points where I felt like the millennial point of view is important than my own see terms to be used and comments made on how older people need to inform themselves about what words now mean inside the community But those were just passing thoughtsI’d recommend the book to others inside and outside the LGBTIA community especially if they happen to be a ueer woman andor know one; and or wish to date oneI’ll end with my favorite uote from the book'The first rule of Bi Club is that you can talk about Bi Club all you want because most people won't believe it's real anyway'January 26 2016


  4. says:

    I received a copy of this book through Penguin's First to Read program in exchange for an honest reviewThis book isn't really for me because I'm fairly certain I'm a normal straight chick That being said a lot of the advice in this book is something that I think all women could benefit from and there's a fair amount of advice that straight men could certainly benefit from concerning how to treat women Honestly enough of the advice would be beneficial for anyone with a romantic partner of any gender or orientation that I think everybody could benefit from reading this book in some way There were areas of this book that made me feel a little uncomfortable Ms King Miller uses a lot of humor and cracks a lot of jokes while giving her advice and I'm not sure if I'm allowed to find it funny or if laughing at her ueer centered jokes is an unacceptable micro aggression on my part That uncertainty makes me feel uncomfortable Maybe her next book can focus on advice for us straight folks interacting with the LGBT community While Chapter 7 sort of did that it really left me with uestions than answersAfter reading this book I do feel like I am at least a little better informed about the female portion of the LGBT community and it was fun to read because of Ms King Miller's humor and freuent compliments Overall I give this book 5 out of 5 stars because it seems uite informative and was fun to read I would recommend it to basically everyone if only to increase understanding of others that may be different from yourselfReviewed on Just Another Girl and Her Books bloghttpwwwjustanothergirlandherbooks


  5. says:

    This book is a huge disappointment King Miller is a lesbian advice columnist and should have published the real uestions that she had received along with her responses instead of writing this one size fits all book There is very little here that would be useful to anyone in the 21st century and this author still promotes the lesbian haircut to advertise If we still lived in the 1950s this book might be great


  6. says:

    I loved reading this I learned a lot have loads to take into consideration in my daily laugh gained perspective and now have a need to read anything else this author writes A wonderfully uirky and personified narration present throughout this book makes for an enjoyable reading experience throughout She certainly had lots of advice to give I feel like every uestion I’ve ever had I’ve now received an answer for


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    Okay okay I know what you're thinking You're obviously not a ueer chick so why did you read this? Well not that I have to explain myself but because 1 a friend on Goodreads said it was really good thanks Lexxi Kitty 2 I was wanting to read an LGBT positive non fiction book from NetGalley for a change and 3 because there's actually a chapter for straight allies which I do consider myself If those aren't enough reasons then I don't know what to say Lindsay King Miller is an excellent writer and she's hilarious She starts out where you'd expect Advice on coming out I've seen this happen You may have to cut ties with people who are important to you if they won’t respect your life your relationships or your identityAnd this makes me mad Finally if you think coming out may put you in physical danger violence being kicked out of your home etc do everything you can to have an exit strategy in place before disclosing This should include a place to stay a way of getting there and a plan for how you’ll support yourself at least for the short term If anyone makes you feel threatened call 911 andor activate your exit strategy immediately—don’t wait around to see if things get worseNot at the author obviously But the fact that she has to include this in there because it really is necessary is just a horrifying part of our culture But a lot of her advice is just general good wisdom that anyone can use The following is about coming out but who couldn't use this great advice? When you’re stuck and can’t see a way out every problem is crushing and demoralizing It’s easy to feel like the problem is you like there’s something fundamentally wrong with the person you are There isn’t—you’re a wonderful human being in shitty circumstances and you will find a solution as long as you keep setting goals and working toward them It’s okay if it’s slow it’s okay if it’s hard it’s okay if you have unexpected setbacksThis is some great advice But don't get me wrong a lot of this is very specific to the “L” in LGBT I think this book is great even for non lesbians who 1 are dating and 2 want to be understanding of those in your life who are lesbians Like the red flags those are red flags for any relationship But mostly I'm glad I read it because Lindsay is funny as hell The chapter on bisexuality has some excellent information to clue us on on issues that are particular to those that call themselves bisexual This is good learning for both straight allies and non bisexual LGBT folks And she gives some good solid relationship advice about being ready for marriage living together heartbreak what to do when your family rejects you Of course it all tends to be very specific to relationships between two women but there’s a lot of overlap with other relationships I'm not sure what her background in relationships is well besides having them but she has obviously done some good research and comes out with some good solid relationship advice And her advice for being a good ally? Just don’t be a dick There’s than that but that’s how she sums it up and I love it She talks about the 2 year process of getting married to her partner While I obviously support same sex marriage this was good to remember why it's important Not just because of the legal rights it gives But because it gives certain people a simple right that the rest of us take for granted And she has some great stuff to say about bullying But what I love most about this book is that it is filled with such hope Whether you're living a non traditional life No two happy families are exactly the same but that doesn’t mean any of them are happier than the others Be as creative as you want to be As long as your family is built on bonds of love respect and support it can look like just about anythingOr have big dreams you should never give up on searching for something so spectacular that it brings glitter and joy into every otherwise dull facet of your life If you haven’t found it or can’t even imagine yet what it might be that’s okay It’s out there It’s going to rock your worldThis book is all about keeping at it and making it better And about your life It’s not good enough until it’s amazingI know that maybe the people that this was written to may need to hear this because the world treats them like they should believe it less and I don't want to take this away from that audience But it really is good stuff for anyone who has relationships Highly highly recommended Thanks to NetGalley and PENGUIN GROUP Blue Rider Press for a copy in return for an honest review


  8. says:

    This book made my heart smile and reminded me why representation is so important I especially loved that the author is a bi lady and spent time speaking to bi erasure


  9. says:

    What are you reading? a dating book That awkward moment when you know you can't come out to some people Some people can be friends or family or acuaintances Regardless of your sexual identity empower yourself to read this book Chapters titled Coming Out Of Mullets and Motorcycles Your Guide to the Subculture I'm not Gay but My Sister Is Advice for Straight People and Bi Any Means Necessary Notes on Non Monosexuality will guide you to appropriate chapters if you choose to read them out of order which I did Sure my purpose to reading this book was to help me pick up chicks in addition to helping me to come out I found that I was laughing out loud while simultaneously developing a crush on a married woman JK maybe


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    I’m not a good reviewer for self help books I think they mostly include a bunch of crap you should already know If you can’t figure it out on your own are you really going to listen to some random author? However this one is targeted at women who love women and the specificity encouraged me to give it a try While some chapters did include helpful tips in general the book was much toogeneral Most of what she outlined was common sense if you have any self esteem and life experience What might have been interesting instead is specific uestions she’s gotten over the years and her responses People can glean what they need from that without it being handed to them so directly